Offbeat Chronicles

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Dating in America

Dating in America

Monogamy or diversification

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René Volpi
Mar 21, 2024
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Most people know dating in America is far from what it was barely 10 years ago.

Several aspects relate to this important subject, and we’ll try to break them out here as best we can.

So, people are lonely. After the lockdowns, and recognising their consequences, we faced a new generation of individuals willing to give another chance at love (or "relationships").

During those lockdowns, many couples split and never looked back. Domestic dramas, loose words and ugly behaviours all played a part in what happened.

Many are now looking for a partner, a strong relationship, carnal knowledge, commitment, and even marriage if all goes well.

A problem that immediately arises is the question of where to begin.

The Commercialisation of Love

Enter online dating sites. According to numerous polls, the percentages are similar. 60% of participants believe that’s the way to go about it.

13% believe it is not. While 68% of men are confident they’ll find someone, 55% of women are not so sure.

Of those asked, 45% chose apps as the vehicle, 33% said friends are more likely, and 27% believe social media will take them to the top of that mountain.

Many would-be daters (37%) prefer to date multiple people, while 44% desire a monogamous long-term relationship.

As we can see, no one size fits all, and choices and preferences are all over the map.

As the wise would say, some things never change. Men under 30 would like to date, fast and furious, as if the world would end tomorrow.

People of both sexes over 50 are more conservative, for obvious reasons, and would prefer a long-term commitment with one partner they can count on.

Of course, dating sites intimidate many people. They believe they're being taken advantage of because the prospects are either fakes or bots. They have sworn off these sites and will not promote or recommend them to anyone, regardless of promises, full stop.

The New Establishments

In this day and age, people are eager for a range of experiences post-pandemic, from casual to non-committal to full compromise.

Something very peculiar is happening with these types of choices and behaviours. It was completely unheard of when dating sites peaked a decade ago.

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